You’ll always be the original and best Thinker on this site 🙂

No, it is not me unless I have multiple personalities.

Yeah, I saw someone called ‘Thinker’ on limerence.net. Is that you?

Hey, you aren’t THE Thinker, are you? The original from Tribe?

They were most interested in my personal experiences. It was a good discussion, but I tended to ramble on about the usual topics from the site 🙂 Not sure there would be much value for me being middleman – they want personal stories in the limerent or LO’s own voices.

One thing that was a possible point of confusion, I think, was that I was talking about limerence from the Tennov perspective (i.e. it’s a personality trait like introversion or agreeableness) and having had some time to think afterwards, I suspect they may have been approaching the topic more as an “obsessive love” perspective – i.e. more of a mental illness.

I guess we’ll see…

What kind of questions did they ask?

If they have questions, maybe they could ask them via you and you act as front man.

That’s great, Pudding.
I was interviewed yesterday, and it was all good. Hopefully this will be a valuable podcast, and raise awareness about limerence and its effects.

“It’s tricky to think about which kind of LOs could be approached. If the limerent has a reasonable grasp of social conventions they’re not going to mention the whole “by the way I’m soooo infatuated with you” even if they do disclose. Which might mean a selection bias for LOs who had creepy stalker limerents who told them everything and then still hung around…”

No joke.

For the record, when I disclosed to LO #4, I flat out told her I had seen my EAP counselor who’d said, “Get away from this woman and stay away from her. Stay involved with this woman and this will not end well for you.” LO #4 said she was “…flattered and might possibly be curious but circumstances are what they are” (i.e., “you’re married.”) She added that if I got it together we could maintain the acquaintance. I thought I had and we started corresponding again. She’d open up, I’d respond, and she’d either drop out of sight or respond with something that had absolutely nothing to do with anything I’d said. That pissed me off and we went pretty deep in the weeds over that with the end result being she sent me a FB friend request. That sent my anxiety through the roof. A few months later, in my response to her eventual goodbye, I reiterated that I’d seen an EAP counselor who had predicted much of what LO #4 said in the goodbye.

Whatever she thinks, she can’r possibly claim she wasn’t aware of the level we were on.

I definitely think it’s worth mentioning the SO idea. They are the ones who are generally more “in the know” than LOs.

It’s tricky to think about which kind of LOs could be approached. If the limerent has a reasonable grasp of social conventions they’re not going to mention the whole “by the way I’m soooo infatuated with you” even if they do disclose. Which might mean a selection bias for LOs who had creepy stalker limerents who told them everything and then still hung around…