“It may be that unavailable people are also extra attractive because they have demonstrated their value by successfully securing a mate. ”
It may be that, but it’s also the simple idea that people who are already in relationships usually have at least some of their relationship needs met. You don’t pick up the same internalized pressure you sometimes can read from an available person who is telegraphing “pick me, pick me.” It’s the same concept of it being easier to get a job when you have a job. You aren’t going into an interview with the same “hire me, hire me” energy of a person who is unemployed. It makes the unavailable person seem like they have a little bit of game.

Confession #3
Tracking down my unavailable LO in the 90’s, He entered a venue to a sold out show,https://youtu.be/VJTjsVSzQ1Q, I didn’t have a ticket, next minute security throws a intoxicated man outside. I spotted his ticket in his shirt & Snatched it, security let me in…in my desperation then, I didn’t help him or put the man a taxi & I didn’t focus on the concert, I was to busy trying to spot my LO …No consciousness of my action back then just a selfish path I was gripped in.
Just reflecting & sharing my Limerence experience to know..
Do you love me..! Lol.

Hi Cindy, and welcome. Thanks for the message, and the tune!

It’s funny, Tim, because I have thought that exact thing about my LO. I sometimes refer to her as the “sexiest woman alive,” when I know she isn’t. The thing is she is that for me right now anyway. We just have to realize these are illusions and our minds playing tricks on us. Good luck in finding someone suitable and available!

@Emma ~ I’ll keep you posted as to whether this is permanent. I have always been very intense & this experience of limerence seems to have been an extremely short, sharp shock!!!

@I’m Taken, that sounds GREAT!! You would be the first case I read about here with such an intense but short lived limerence experience. Probably because you took action very fast after realizing what was happening. Well done!