There’s help here, Limerantlady. We understand the baffling madness of understanding LO is bad intellectually, but still craving them emotionally.

The recent posts are about the idea of purposeful living as a long-term solution, but there are also lots of posts on the short term emergency principles. Here’s a good place to start:

https://livingwithlimerence.com/deprogramming-the-limerent-brain/

He’s not right for me. Seven years younger, with the depth of a teacup and a ghetto sensibility, I find myself repulsed by his lifestyle, yet crazily drawn to him sexually and emotionally.

I need to make my marriage work! I have important goals with my husband, lots of reasons to stay. But LO’s eyes are behind everything I look at and it’s messing with my entire world.

I almost messaged him today. Almost. I’m so glad I resisted.

Is he limerant toward me? Signs point to yes. But he has a history of pursuing married women, and trapping them in his nest and then watching it all blow up when he finds the next married one and all the ladies get to fight over him. Over and over again he toys with our hearts. How can I want to be within ten miles of someone so toxic? He even told me he was in love with another married woman twenty years older than him! Didn’t stop it! Just made me mad. If he loves her then why is he toying with me?

And yet….

I have many psychology degrees. They have not helped. I have lots of books. They do not stop it. The attentions from numerous other men (husband included!) does not stop it. I made a full confession to my husband with pleas for help. Didn’t stop it. Drugs and all types of medication did not work.

No contact is possible with egregious sacrifice but I fear it’s my only hope. After all, I am worth more than this and my dignity is being assaulted almost daily. Help!

Masterclass in good communication, you two. Thanks.

I apologise.

I’m sorry if you have bad experience with mothers and women, pls don’t project that on me, you don’t know me at all, I find your words very hurtful, again it was ment to be funny over exaggerated and ironic, (no I’m not litterary crawling on the floor) I’m not going to justify my motherhood with a total stranger for no reason, because I wrote a funny colom like piece. Would be nice to leave at this.

Well, if he does bring home a borderline (or any DSM-IV Cluster B), remember you heard it here first!

that response is unusually harsh for you Scharnhorst

We all have our triggers…

Blimey, that response is unusually harsh for you Scharnhorst…..or maybe the humour has been lost within the written word.
I enjoyed this LE diary and found it very relate-able – it certainly can be an up & down roller coaster! Thanks for sharing Mia.