Oh, now I confused Sammy with Sammy. I‘ll stop posting and drink my coffee 🙈

A lot of Sammys:)
I think he called himself 01 now which is more fitting than 2 since he‘s been on this site for a long time.
Welcome!

Um, this community already has a Sammy who posts an awful lot. (me). Maybe you can be Sammy2 in order to avoid confusion? 🙂

I am absolutely in the same situation including the cheating !! Word to word – noone else is as fun !
Hope you have seen some light at the end of the tunnel – waiting for mine !

Well done, Whoomp!

Absolutely spot on. Deleting messages is a massive step. It’s so difficult to do but it’s a huge relief. You know why.

Brilliant!

Whoomp, you are indeed on it ! and you know it’ll be hard. Deleting texts is big step. Hope that felt positive. Onwards and upwards.

Right I’m on it. 1 week NC, two almost messages but resisted. Texts deleted today. I’m in stage 2 of the 4 stages:

https://livingwithlimerence.com/the-four-phases-of-no-contact/

Just had a chat with my friend about my feelings and how jealous I got etc. I really sounded like a crazy person so that was also a wake up call. I’m not naive to think this is it though, and am bracing for the loneliness, doubt, sadness etc of phase 3. This is what happened last time when I re-instigated contact. But I know more now, accept more of the reality and have probably revealed my cards too much so this is the only way. I’m looking forward to regaining some control and hopefully peace of mind. Onwards!

Best keep my head down but I know the next few weeks will be tough!

Whoomp

I remember when she, after working with her sometime, told me why she was divorced. She told me in confidence and she didn’t have to. I responded with instinct and hate. I have no idea how their 11 years together as a married couple went. But her sharing that she got out of the marriage because he cheated on her was exposing herself to me. She opened up to me. To someone she apparently didn’t see as a stranger. And how did my dumba$$ respond? “Well you’re better off without him.” Let’s not discount an 11 year relationship and two children on one act. Oh wait I did. I still regret and overthink that statement.

And maybe she shrugged it off at the time, and hasn’t given it a second thought. But like Mila said we tend to overthink when it comes to interactions with LOs. Maybe, like with everything else with her, she took it with grace. She was always so full of grace when it came to this old curmudgeon and his “boomer” ways. 🙂 A real sweetheart. Much like Momma.

Oh frederico,
Thank you!❤️you made my otherwise quite exhausting day.