Jackson, I’m a INFJ so similar in major ways.

I am an ENFJ on the Myers test. Did the test twice in my life, 15 years apart, same result.
Highly artistic, over analytical and emotional, no surprises there ha ha ha

@Jackson: very interesting question about our “similar mental traits”. Would be a great topic to explore further.
I’m usually more a silent reader of the blog. I used to think “what could I write that would be a useful contribution?, I just feel very similar to you all.” But it is extremely therapeutic to actually write. I discovered things about myself while writing!

Same here! Low self-esteem and unhappy marriage. Add midlife crisis to the mix. I’m INFP too.
Thing is, before the LE I wasn’t really conscious about my unhappy marriage. I mean, there is nothing wrong with SO, he a wonderful person and husband, we have a great life, happy children, friends… I have nothing to complain of. The LE revealed this part of me that was unfulfilled, it was hidden inside for so many years. Then of course, it could be partly my limerent brain rewriting history! But I don’t think so. I know I have everything to be happy and I’m grateful to my husband for that. It’s just this “different” part of myself that has been woken up by LO. He’s a bit similar to how I used to be in my twenties (even if he’s in his late forties and it’s actually a bit pathetic at his age…).

Jackson, your “blab” comment made me laugh!!!! As far as Myers: INFP for me.
You make some valid points!

I’ve noticed that a lot of us have very similar mental traits (I wonder how many of you guys are also INTP, assuming you put any stock in MBTI), experiences, challenges, and sticking points.

I wonder what this implies… if anything. Is limerence something only certain personality types are prone to? Or are those personality types the ones more likely to find an internet site devoted to the topic, voraciously read the blog posts, and then feel the need to share and compare…

I wonder what percentage of the sites regular visitors are silent, watching the rest of us blab.

“I thrive on other people’s good opinions of me” yup, same, add people pleaser & unhappy to the mix and you have a heady cocktail.

Jackson and Sarah…I think I am in the same boat as you. I had a very rewarding work experience today in which my patient who was failing has begun to thrive and I felt I had to share this good news on our agency common communication board. As I hit send I asked myself “Why do I have to do this?” And after honest self examination I finally came to the conclusion that a) I am really happy for the patient and want to share something positive with my colleagues and B) (which might be bigger than a) I thrive on others people’s good opinion of me. Hmm.

Yeah, I agree with Jackson.
I was definitely very unhappy for years, and moving locations, losing my friends (that were a good distraction from an unhappy marriage), new job with all new colleagues left me susceptible for making new friends, and unfortunately I found someone that filled the gap. Add 2 young kids which leaves me unable to go out every once in a while to meet people.
I also wouldn’t say I have low self-esteem. Like jackson said, thriving on other people’s good opinion fits it quite well.