Comments on: The seduction of Romance https://livingwithlimerence.com/the-seduction-of-romance/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-seduction-of-romance Life, love, and limerence Mon, 23 Nov 2020 18:28:42 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.1.9 By: GreenEyedMonster https://livingwithlimerence.com/the-seduction-of-romance/#comment-17647 Mon, 23 Nov 2020 18:28:42 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=718#comment-17647 A lot of the discussion on this site focuses on married limerence. But there’s another kind that is not so great for your mental health or your life — unrequited and unwanted limerence, in other words, when the LO is disgusted by your affections and wishes you’d leave them alone. (Worth a future blog post, Dr. L?) Many people do not care to be “loved” or lusted after in this manner. When the limerent holds that their resistance is some kind of playing hard to get and chalks it up to “romance,” they end up doing things that lead to restraining orders. As you’ve said before, Dr. L, the stories we tell ourselves matter.

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By: Scharnhorst https://livingwithlimerence.com/the-seduction-of-romance/#comment-1582 Mon, 24 Sep 2018 18:07:01 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=718#comment-1582 Are limerents “romantics?” How about LOs?

My father was of the era of “Mad Men.” I was somewhat “classically” trained in romance by my father. I found it largely wasted in the 70s and 80s when I came of age. Few of the women I dated then seemed to understand it, let alone appreciate it. One of the things that attracted me to my wife was that even though she was born in the 60s, romance appealed to her.

This was in stark contrast to her predecessor, LO #2, to whom romance seemed lost on. Candle lit dinners, soft music, and a fire went right over her head. Although, LO #2’s libido seemed to be directly proportional to the number of stars a hotel had. From some of the things she said, I think LO #4 may have had a romantic streak in her but I never got to explore that.

Pesky random thoughts….

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