Comments on: Article on long-term love https://livingwithlimerence.com/article-on-long-term-love/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=article-on-long-term-love Life, love, and limerence Mon, 10 Jul 2023 14:18:31 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.1.9 By: Nisor https://livingwithlimerence.com/article-on-long-term-love/#comment-43264 Mon, 10 Jul 2023 14:18:31 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=546#comment-43264 In reply to MJ.

Hi MJ, at 27 you were a baby…. I’m a female, and no way I would get married at that age. I was enjoying my youth and work. I was in a deep exclusive romantic relationship then, but I wasn’t ready to settle down. (He didn’t have the qualifications …he’s the love of my life and
my LO now….) Marriage brings children and children bring obligations and one gets tied up too soon. I’ve seen my sisters and friends struggle with marriage and children and I didn’t find it too amusing… I married at 31 and my SO was ten years older. But he was mature, had “daddy material “, and was financially solvent. Now , I was ready to settle down consciously. My thinking: if I were to have children I wanted to stay home and bring them up myself, I needed a secure and save environment for that. Mission accomplished!

]]> By: MJ https://livingwithlimerence.com/article-on-long-term-love/#comment-43254 Mon, 10 Jul 2023 07:39:47 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=546#comment-43254 In reply to Limerent Emeritus.

I was 27 when I married. Funny thing is that I knew I was an idiot then.
Now I’m 52 and not much has changed.

]]> By: Limerent Emeritus https://livingwithlimerence.com/article-on-long-term-love/#comment-43240 Sun, 09 Jul 2023 19:56:47 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=546#comment-43240 A Chief Petty Officer at my NROTC unit in college told me that any man who married before age 30 was an idiot.

]]> By: Nisor https://livingwithlimerence.com/article-on-long-term-love/#comment-43231 Sun, 09 Jul 2023 10:57:31 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=546#comment-43231 In reply to Nisor.

Correction: women should marry at her late 20s.

]]> By: Nisor https://livingwithlimerence.com/article-on-long-term-love/#comment-43230 Sun, 09 Jul 2023 10:53:40 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=546#comment-43230 “The key question is: are the long term romantics blessed with physiology to sustain romantic behavior, or do they cultivate the behaviors that sustain the physiology?

The million dollar question.

I believe everyone is blessed with a physiology system to sustain romantic behaviors, as long as they are physically and mentally healthy, first. Second, if the partners wait till they’re mature enough to make the right choice of a partner. That is, young couples are not mature enough, have had not enough experience, have not been established economically yet, therefore they cannot offer the safe and secure environment needed for a long-term romantic relationship to survive and be at ease, peace. That’s why, I believe, they go through the mid-life crisis… In other words, men should marry at their 35 years and over , and women at late 30s. That is: When the men are more or less done with chasing women, are established economically, and at peace with themselves and accomplishments; and women are finished with her studies and dream career, enjoyed their youth as a single person and now is ready for nesting… With this in mind, now they’re ready to cultivate the behaviors that will keep the fire going and the peace that allows them to enjoy one another. My two cents.

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