Comments on: Hard choices https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=hard-choices Life, love, and limerence Sat, 23 Oct 2021 13:19:51 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.1.9 By: Reader https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26350 Sat, 23 Oct 2021 13:19:51 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26350 ]]> In reply to Jaideux.

A merch store of some everyday items with nuggets of LwL wisdom on them! and maybe some books too 🙂

]]> By: Jaideux https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26311 Fri, 22 Oct 2021 23:41:16 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26311 HA! Yes, Dr. L, long overdue. 🙂

]]> By: drlimerence https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26310 Fri, 22 Oct 2021 23:37:44 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26310 In reply to Reader.

Hmm. Merch store?

]]> By: Reader https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26306 Fri, 22 Oct 2021 22:24:31 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26306 ]]> In reply to Jaideux.

Haha, it would be a great tshirt! inspired by the collective wisdom in this wonderful community 🙂

]]> By: Jaideux https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26295 Fri, 22 Oct 2021 19:28:13 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26295 In reply to Reader.

“this person obstructs my purpose and the pursuit of a fruitful future”

That needs to be a framed cross stitch or a Tshirt or a refrigerator magnet.

🙂

]]> By: Reader https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26287 Fri, 22 Oct 2021 17:40:25 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26287 @Jaideux (not sure why it’s not letting me reply to your comment directly) absolutely I feel the same! It’s one of the reasons I find addiction a convincing framework for limerence: recovery has to be an ongoing effort. I actually try to think and write a little bit [even just a sentence or two] about steps I’m taking to achieve purpose, every day. It’s especially helpful on the “bad” days. Because you know, limerence is really such a sneaky thing … you feel OK and then one day you’re stressed, or sad, or [insert any other unpleasant emotion] and the thoughts come crawling back in … Remaining grounded and thinking “this person obstructs my purpose and the pursuit of a fruitful future” helps to let the nostalgia subside.

]]> By: Jaideux https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26279 Fri, 22 Oct 2021 16:35:29 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26279 In reply to Reader.

@Reader,
I had forgotten about this post with the highly developed nautical metaphor! Ha!! Thanks for triggering a reread.
I’ve found that even as a recovering limerent it’s highly important to regularly pause and reexamine goals and hobbies and purpose because in quiet moments of reverie … insidious nostalgia can sneak in … do you feel the same??

]]> By: Reader https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26263 Fri, 22 Oct 2021 10:41:02 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26263 In reply to Jaideux.

“The crumbs of a Feast” that’s such a fantastic way of expressing what you get from limerence for an unsuitable LO!

And yes, when she mentioned drifting it also reminded me of this excellent blog post https://livingwithlimerence.com/when-are-we-most-vulnerable-to-limerence/

]]> By: Jaideux https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26247 Fri, 22 Oct 2021 05:11:18 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26247 In reply to Reader.

I also liked the idea of resisting “drifting” into decisions. It takes Superhuman strength to end a LE (we could drift inside one endlessly) but it’s a conscious decision with rich rewards. We deserve so much more than the crumbs of a Feast.

]]> By: Reader https://livingwithlimerence.com/hard-choices/#comment-26219 Thu, 21 Oct 2021 20:28:17 +0000 https://livingwithlimerence.com/?p=476#comment-26219 I’m going to leave one of those “why isn’t there a comment on this?” comment. This is such a great video, thank you for sharing it …. I find it a deeply healing message for someone in recovery like myself, that hard choices give us the opportunity to be the people we want to be. Yes they are hard but more importantly they are an incredible opportunity to make space for, more deeply understand, and stress-test our values and priorities. I am really thankful for my LE (recovery) for making me see this for the first time, it’s an incredibly transformative way of approaching emotionally painful decisions in general.

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