“I absolutely believe in predatory people who measure their worth through mate-poaching.” Dr. L

It is mate-poaching regardless of the reason why someone is pursuing a married LO. There’s no excuses to call it something else.

If you read the following article* you’ll be really surprised, if not scared of what “mate-poaching” means. In some places it is punishable by law, and it has a darker side of your personality described and shown in it called the “Dark Triad.”

Mate poaching may be attractive to someone , it even can apparently offer something good to someone , but behind it is deception. And if it continues might end in tragedy.

Excerpts: “Spouse poachers are frequently already involved in a relationship. They tend to mislead or trick their existing partner Scientists say that people who try to steal a partner may show more love towards their current partner. The objective is to conceal their attempts to lure another associate and avoid suspicion.

Scientist are studying why people choose untrustworthy partners despite valuing honesty and trust in long term relationships. The answer may lay in mate-poaching as an addictive reproductive strategy. It plays on the same rewards centers as problem gambling, or drug addiction. The highs of successful seduction exists. There are also the lows when the relationship ends. Mate poaching can become a repetitive and addictive habit.”

*Mate-poachers Therapy Research suggests that many mate-poachers exhibit personality traits known as the DARK TRIAD, which are Machiavellian intelligence, narcissism and psychopathy.
Workplace mate-poachers have inherently unstable intimate relationships. They struggle to hold on to partners and frequently willingly allow themselves to be poached away. Studies show that many mate poachers have personality disorders, like narcissism or Border line personality disorder”.

There you have it!!! Mate-poaching can become a repetitive and addiction habit!!!

From the article in the internet: *

“*” MATE POACHING: she’s aggressively pursuing my husband.”(Spouse and mate poaching.”

Let’s be warned and be ware if these things apply to you…

Have a pleasant day!

When it comes to infidelity, some people are better at handling things than others.

Woman (LO #1):

When I was in college, there was a girl I was attracted to. I wanted to see “Animal House.” She said she had a BF and declined but said her roommate wanted to see it and I should ask her. I did, she accepted, and we started an acquaintance. Eventually, we started sleeping together. It was weird. We’d sleep together, we’d get along for a week or so, then she’d go NC. About a week later, she’d make contact, get friendly, and we’d sleep together, again.

Another thing I noticed was that when she came over, she always had to have a stiff drink or two before sex. I told a friend about it and that I found it kind of depressing. He asked if she was sober or drunk when she came over. She was always sober. He said she was drinking to get past something. That something turned out to be her BF.

One day her roommate called me and said I needed to stop seeing LO #1. She said LO #1 had a BF and they were planning on getting engaged that summer. I told her roommate that I should be hearing that from LO #1 and when she called things off, I would.

The next time I saw LO #1, I told her to tell me about her BF. She remarked that her roommate must have told me. She said she had one and when she was with me, she felt like she was cheating on him. I told her if they’d been together for years and were planning to get engaged, then yeah, she was cheating on him. She looked at me and said, “You realize you’re not doing yourself any favors.”

I told her I liked the arrangement. It worked for me. In a few months, I was going to graduate. I’d go one way, she’d go her way, and she goes down in the books as the best thing that happened to me in college. But, call it for what it is. I asked if I should get her things. She said, “I’m not going anywhere.”

I have no idea what happened to her.

Woman #2:

Sometime in the 80s, after I’d broken up with LO #2, I met a woman at the gym. She became part of our larger social circle. We got along pretty well in those situations so I asked her out.

We were in the restaurant when she said that she needed to tell me that she had a BF. He was a grad student in college across the state. I asked her why she was here. She said I was forcing an issue. I asked how. She said they’d been together awhile and they were at the point where she felt they needed to move forward together or they split. She said meeting me had kind of brought that to a head.

I told her she had a decision to make. She said she was seeing him the following week and she’d let me know. I got a call from her the following week asking to meet. When she arrived, she was wearing an engagement ring and was glowing. She thanked me. I don’t know why.

I ended up getting her husband a job where I worked. He was a great guy and they’re still married.

Different women, different styles….