Comments on: Is limerence all bad?

By: Adam

Adam — Fri, 09 Jun 2023 13:27:42 +0000

In reply to Dinesh.

Dinesh

Your term “my close one” is very endearing. It feels that way doesn’t it? This person that just popped into your life and all of sudden you feel so close to them. They mean so much to you out of nowhere. I knew LO for about a year before I even became limerent for her. And all of a sudden this “close one” meant the world to me. I don’t even really remember for sure how it happened. But one day she was a co-worker and the next day LO.

On the flip side I am happy to have found this place and learned the term “limerent object” or LO. I have found it therapeutic in distancing myself from her by calling her LO than by her name. Even in comments here or talking to my wife about this.

By: Dinesh

Dinesh — Fri, 09 Jun 2023 11:23:11 +0000

yes , i also loose my 1/8th of body wight ,

its like roller coaster ride some day i am on moon other day i am doubting my whole life

limerence make me bold and happening , I become different person , my close one start noticing that ,

i start connecting more often with friends and close one like they are only matter to me, i am craving for connection ,

i am still in limerence , its more than year now still in contact with my LO , hopping this for will over soon.

do not want loose my LO friend to this limerence.

By: Adam

Adam — Mon, 05 Jun 2023 13:57:40 +0000

Yeah but all those “pluses” come at a price. A price for the most part other people pay while we are limerently blinded by LO. My “pluses” had a lot to do with “self-improvement” category. The costs? My wife and son thinking I was having an affair. Trying to piece together my marriage because my wife is a good enough woman to want to work through this together with me. Both of my boys knowing I had my eyes on another woman other than their mother. Than there is whatever if anything I put on LO because of my limerence. Did I even offend LO’s gentleman friend in some way? Lots of penalties to pay for a bit of neurological highs. It’s like the drunk that walks away from a drunken accident and gets sober. But the other people involved all pay the price for his actions. Yeah he got sober and no longer drinks and drives. But the forgotten people are the people that paid the price for his drunk driving. High price to pay.

By: Limerent Emeritus

Limerent Emeritus — Mon, 05 Jun 2023 03:04:25 +0000

Song of the Day: “Don’t Get Me Wrong” – The Pretenders (1986)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=07_kaLOq7v0

“…
Don’t get me wrong
If I come and go like fashion
I might be great tomorrow
But hopeless yesterday

Don’t get me wrong
If I fall in the mode of fashion
It might be unbelievable
But let’s not say so long
It might just be fantastic
Don’t get me wrong”

By: Findus

Findus — Mon, 28 Nov 2022 20:15:28 +0000

In reply to Natalie.

You’re lucky. I’m rightfully blaming my first grey hairs on the stress I’ve been going through due to limerence.

But yes, LO has been a great muse. It’s been weeks of NC, but just seeing her profile pic randomly show up on my contacts inspired me to draft another song.

I’m just a bit disappointed that I wasn’t able to „use“ the energy in that way with my first LO.

By: Natalie

Natalie — Fri, 25 Nov 2022 22:54:06 +0000

In reply to Naomi. LOL. I am aging very well also. It never occurred to me I had limerence to thank!

By: Kajal C

Kajal C — Mon, 03 Oct 2022 04:28:48 +0000

In reply to Riv.

Greetings !!

Feels good to read that you have healed and the past, painful times are over. I pray you never face them again.

I would love to know how you healed and the steps taken. Kindly let me know if there is a way to connect.

Thank you.

By: Naomi

Naomi — Fri, 22 Jul 2022 21:39:48 +0000

I’ve been celibate for nearly 5 years by focusing on these “pros”. I was able to write a 242 pg novel using one of my LO’s as a muse (although I’ll admit the revision process is difficult while currently in the midst of a whole new obsession), and strangely enough, I’ve been told I’m aging way better than most women my age- which I contribute to seasonal bouts of limerent euphoria and lots of feel-good endorphins. Limerence is kind of a super power…

By: lowendj

lowendj — Tue, 14 Jun 2022 03:59:44 +0000

In reply to Polosk. Wow, that brings me back! I dropped a bunch of weight hoping LO would notice. Barely, but my SO did...and other behaviors.

By: Marcia

Marcia — Mon, 13 Jun 2022 19:07:45 +0000

In reply to Marcia.

LE,
“As long as I understood it going in, why not? I
Well, I guess for a one-and done, but repeated sex implies some level of basic interest in the other person, at least sexually. And I only came on to him to stick it to my LO, who wouldn’t have sex with me. I was hoping to make LO jealous. Why the other guy didn’t question why I suddenly completely ignored LO, after months of giving him attention, and threw myself at him made no sense to me. But he was such a narcissist. Probably never occurred to him that someone wasn’t into him. As I said, the whole thing was kind of gross.
“Yeah, you can learn about sex from books and videos but sex is one of those things best learned from OJT. And, like a lot of things, the more you practice, the better you usually [albeit, not always] get at it.”
Yes, you have to practice. Sometimes you learn through practice stuff you didn’t even know you liked.