I still don’t fully understand why others’ glimmers at me often sent me to run for the hills…. I tried to cultivate but always failed to reciprocate some of those glimmers, either from a gorgeous face or attractive personality…

And for me it’s the smell of soap—just regular plain white soap. Sometimes it makes my chest ache.

No it was always her unless she wasn’t there. It was because that was a “woman’s place” and he wasn’t going to do it himself. Despite that all it was her going to the restaurant we all had decided on for lunch and bringing it back to the office. I’ve known him longer than I have worked here. I know what he’s like with woman and swear sometimes he does it just to see if he can irk me. So most times I bite my lip just to not give him the satisfaction.

But yeah I called him out a lot on it but LO always said she didn’t mind doing it. So I guess I had to take her word for it. And she would do it without complaining. But I don’t think he could do that to the other gal that worked there and I think he knew that. She was much more tenacious than LO.

My wife’s signature fragrance is Red Door Revealed. It used to be Fendi. Georgio also smells phenomenal on her.

LO #2’s signature fragrance was Poison. I loved the smell of Valentino on LO #2. I bought her a bottle and she quit using it. I asked why and she said that it made her break out.

One day I was in the elevator at work. I smelled a combo of Eternity and Poison. I asked the woman about it. She said that she was wearing both. She didn’t think she had enough Eternity in the bottle so she added the Poison. She said that I was the first man who could identify any fragrance let alone pick two of them out combined.

My signature fragrance was Grey Flannel. I loved it but since LO #2 picked it out, my wife hates it. Now, I pretty much cycle between Polo, Drakar Noir, and Eternity for Men, depending on what I run out of and my wife buys for me.

As for your supervisor insisting your LO go to lunch, there are labor laws that require it. It sounds like your supervisor might be a little anal about it but it’s not uncommon. Was he not applying it uniformly across all the employees?

1) When I met LO she was single. Single mother with two daughters. My mother raised my sister and I, almost alone. My father worked day and night to provide for us so that my mother could stay at home and raise us rather than a daycare. So in many ways my mother raised us “alone” much like LO raised her daughters alone. An attractive and admiral trait; a mother dedicated to her children. (And as an aside I married a woman like my mother in many ways. And I am pretty sure that was subconscious.)

2) I have no idea about this one. My sense of smell is about as dull as a butter knife. LO was definitely active in her fitness. Her and my supervisor would talk about their fitness regiment over lunch. So even if it wasn’t visible that LO had a fitness regiment, I heard it. I have no honest idea if it factored in to the glimmer at all though. You had to go there with the smiles again, huh, Dr L?

3) No, yes
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LO mothered me in some ways. From scolding me for my smoking while having a heart condition to cautioning me about lifting things too heavy for my back to sometimes “preparing” my lunch for me before she would call me in for lunch break. “It’s hot outside, you shouldn’t stay out in the heat so long come in and cool down.” “Are you drinking enough water?” She looked after me just like my mother did. And my wife for that matter. Or that’s what the limerence told me. Maybe she was just a nice and concerned woman.

I didn’t (and sometimes still don’t) get along with my supervisor. His treatment of women in general pisses me off, even if I go overboard on the opposite side of the spectrum. In his eyes it was LO’s DUTY to go get lunch everyday. Many days I would be in the mood to get in his face and tell him to f off. LO would be there to calm me and tell me it’s alright and she didn’t mind doing it.

I can pretty much do whatever I need to do independently. (Except spiders. My wife gets to kill the spiders in the house.) I don’t NEED help with most things but I appreciate it. And for some reason when a woman, be it my mother, wife, female co-worker wants to mother me I can’t help but let them. To me it is a very endearing trait no matter what the relationship is between the woman and myself. But I now know with female co-workers that’s not apparently perhaps not a good thing. At least with LO.

I am limerent mostly/only for one gender and sexually attracted mostly/only to the other. I wonder how common this is. Yes, this makes life quite complicated.