@Mila – ‘snap’ with Primrose Hill!

The only thing there is that the air can be a bit ‘fragrant’ …

Don’t worry, I totally knew you meant well and was just playing in the reply. I am probably just a bit slower on the bandwagon of “up the AI revolution”. Now where’s my well-thumbed copy of Lonely Planet??

The British weather is capable of being surprising in April – in either direction. One year recently we went from a garden BBQ on Good Friday to below zero on Easter Monday. But let’s keep positive and dwell on the bbq part!

I’d probably say take your picnic to Regents Park and/or Primrose Hill (they adjoin). You can go boating (pedalo or canoe) on the lake in Regents if that grabs you. St James’ Park is also nice. I saw some rare types of bird there (feathered variety!) that I haven’t seen anywhere else. Maybe the King is paying for their upkeep from his nearby throne.

Wherever you’re staying, you should fine there is a surprisingly good amount of parks dotted about nearby.

Trifles,

@picnic,
I have fond memories of a hazy spring afternoon/evening on Primrose Hill (part of Hamptstead Heath)… but it was more than 20 years ago, might have changed..

LaR, Ok, you’re right, that may not have come across as the highest praise. 😅 But for context, I had been playing around with AI and was seriously impressed with the suggestions it made. But yours were much better! And AI knows everything (at least on the internet).

That improv comedy troop would have been *exactly* my thing! It’s a shame that I won’t be in London on a Sunday. Next time I will have to stay for a longer time! The “tube a-z” sounds fun too. I’ve done that when I was younger and was spending a whole summer in a new city and wanted to explore everything. This time I’m hoping the London weather will surprise me pleasantly – at least on one day! – and I want to find a nice place for a picnic. Do you have any suggestions there, LaRGPT?

And I’m glad to be of service for a distracting task. I hope you are able to surf that wave of whatever limerence had in store for you lately.

@CSC,

I’m 100% positive that you would not wish me to be 100% frank….

“This LE for me feels…it feels like a real moment in my life – a crossroads or that kind of thing –“

If you really feel so, then check these blogs out, study them word by word, answer to YOURSELF the questions raised in the articles —

1. https://livingwithlimerence.com/guest-post-limerence-as-a-force-for-revolution/

2. https://livingwithlimerence.com/how-limerence-can-lead-to-renewal/

3. https://livingwithlimerence.com/self-awareness-and-purposeful-living/

4. https://livingwithlimerence.com/beating-limerence-in-2020/

5. https://livingwithlimerence.com/courage-and-limerence/

“and I am curious, so curious, about the word you use …”unexpectedly”… I would love to hear more about that”

It says ALL here —

https://livingwithlimerence.com/guest-post-limerence-as-a-force-for-revolution/#comment-76198

Good lucks for your individuation journey!

https://livingwithlimerence.com/the-death-of-hope/

Sorry for interloping on your coffee but I wanted to pick up on something you said here, CSC:

“I parsed it and I don’t think I was trying to get his interest or prolong more involved contact…But I know I was trying to “be a nice person”.”

That can all be true, but so can other things at the same time. In your position I daresay I’d have made the same decision – after all, why would we not want to be ‘nice’? Especially given the background and context about the art. I get it.

But it is perhaps less about the effect you were, or weren’t, trying to achieve *with LO* (I totally believe you on what you say about your non-intentions in replying). It is as much/more about what it does to *you* by your act of responding to or instigating contact …

… I have reread the ‘Death of Hope’ post in the blog archive quite a bit lately. A lot of other LwLers mention it as a key one. Limerence can only die when we *really* starve hope. I don’t mean just in an intellectual sense, I mean in a ‘visceral’ sense – when we really really know it won’t happen and we start to not even want it to.

It is possible that the LO can sometimes starve a lot of the hope for you (although other LOs don’t want to). But as most or all of the hope started in the limerent’s head, they ultimately have to complete the starvation process. The presence of LO in our orbit can make this very very hard. We don’t always have the luxury of a Bridge over the River Kwai moment.

CSC, from what you have told us, I am not sure you are quite ready yet to starve off hope in this LE, or even if that’s the right thing for you at this point. And I am not judging you if that’s the case – I’d be a hypocrite to do so. But probably you’ll have to get to that starvation point in the end. You have been through limerence more times than me and will understand – better than any guess I can make – how the end parts of the process play out for you.

I just wanted to flag this point for now – every contact decision you make from now on can be a conscious one – will you feed hope or will you starve it?

Relapses and backsliding are normal – don’t beat yourself up, just reset. This will all happen at the pace that’s right for you – but each decision you make contributes somehow.

I am rooting for you however linear or twisty the path turns out to be.

“You’re better than AI”
Wow, that’s some high praise indeed 😂

Yes, we are, as often, off topic. I’m sure the world of LwL will forgive us – I think it is fine in a coffeehouse, especially since there is a newer one where folks are very much on topic and lots of newcomers are joining in. It is good for me to stay ‘off topic’ some of the time at the moment (I’ll elaborate on-topic sometime, but in short, the time of flux is continuing apace).

Anyway – if you like your comedy, I have a London recommendation. I rate this show as about the best comedy around … it has been going 30 years, every Sunday night. I think some of them are still the original people too:

https://comedystoreplayers.com/

It’s unscripted and always hilarious. You wouldn’t regret it if you can get to see them.

As for the ‘off the beaten track’ – it’s hard to know in London, as it is quite a large beaten track. For a bit of purposefully naive livin’, you could do much worse than start a ‘Tube A-Z’ – get an underground map, pick a letter, go to first stop you spot beginning with that letter and just explore whatever’s there! Rinse and repeat with next letter. It keeps it surprising. Just don’t do it in search of a specific 🍨(sorry, no emoji for a trifle) on the menu. Take that, ChatGPT 😀

Oh my gosh LaR, you are better than AI! I will have to go to both Cadogan Arms and Humble Crumble. They sound great! Though I would of course prefer to try your Mum’s trifle.

It’s ages since I’ve been to London, but I’ve seen the main sites and prefer to go slightly off the beaten track anyway. I trust your yearly farmers’ convention trips keep you up-to-date on what the trendy Londoners are up to. 😁 But I’m not yet sure what all I want to do… There must be just so much that I wouldn’t even think of! I’ll look into some smaller theatre companies and stand up comedy clubs, etc.
(We are a bit off-topic again, but this *is the coffee house…)

LaR,

I’d definitely take your Mom’s freshly made trifle, a huge cup of fresh giggly tea, and an ear of fresh local 🌽 — not imported from Indonesia, and enjoy them in a bright corner of Hogwarts….