Someone shared with me that you can be securely attached to someone and behave like a securely attached person; and be insecurely/anxiously attached to another person. At the same time (this person was polyamorous).

Just another perspective.

I guess it’s somehow beneficial to keep voice out confused or upsetting dreams — last night, I had two vivid, absolutely LE and cptsd free dreams.

One was about my current director at a weekend school, she tried to open another business by renting out a large activities space for parents and their kids. I listened to her conversations with this never met COO mother and the banquet they were planning, why? Am I a hungry ghost?

Another was to casually chat with two older male colleagues at work — new faces resembling no one I have ever known. One of them had a very smart, lean, unknown 18 yrs dog, with knowing eyes, his owner praised his independence.

If I follow Jung’s dream analysis theory all the time, I’d be driven mad with so many totally-madeup detailed, vivid images and narratives! I have two lives every single day, should really become a novelist!

Yet as soon as my consciousness returns to me every morning, some sadness or low grade depression related to the LE or cptsd would creep in, pieces of LEs or cptsd memories would clearly surface like a broken record! So I just stayed with them feeling sadness or meditate until they slowly dissipate. (I have “luxury” of not working 9-5.).

Again and again to ME, when the old pains of LE hit, staying with and acutely feeling them was the only way to ease them; each time their degree got reduced. Repetition and “habits” numb everything, joys or pains.

DrL,

Could we have just a few new ‘themed’ ones that stay open (dreams, music, ‘lighter side’ etc)?

That way those of us who want to go that way can, without taking other threads off point. Kind of like 24/7/365 coffeehouses?

Hi All. Sadly, I can’t open blogs one by one – in theory I can close blogs one by one, but obviously doing things that way round would be laborious.

Extended opening hours at the coffeehouse is easier as it had only just passed the 30 day comments duration. Another coffeehouse starts on Saturday.

Thanks all for patience as I figure the comments plan out!

Snow,

At this point, there is nothing I want to say to her and nothing I want to hear from her.

LE,

Imagine this scenario: if you LO2 often dreamed you saving her in her dream narratives (with her unique set of traumas), would she be healed somewhat by her dreams? If she also told you about those dreams, how would you feel, knowing they were just dreams?

I hope so. My monologues to ET and my dreams in which his rescuing me so many times just as I needed in that dream plots/narratives… finally helped healed (almost) my cptsd. I didn’t know/realize it at the time (I studied a litter bit Jung on the summer of 2023).

The dreams I remembered are very vivid with colors, images, narratives, telling me a great deal… now think it back, they were my fortunate capabilities and assets

Now you’ve brought that welder in LwL, who then wore the mask of ET, and making “new” negative memories/reflections in my mind — he even tasted bad now 🤢

Should I believe it’s real/serious❓ the whole challenge of it is that I’d never find out answers… it’s up to my conscious mind to decide… I’m only certain that even in my next life, I would not deal with a welder; so is my unconscious trying to make me to forget ET by making him a welder in my two dreams?

“Every interpretation is hypothetical, for it is a mere attempt to read an unfamiliar text. An obscure dream, taken by itself, can rarely be interpreted with any certainty, so that I attach little importance to the interpretation of single dreams. With a series of dreams we can have more confidence in our interpretations, for the later dreams correct the mistakes we have made in handling those that went before. We are also better able, in a dream series, to recognize the important contents and basic themes, and I therefore urge my patients to make a careful records of their dreams and the interpretations given them.”
– Carl Jung

Snow,

Maybe DrL will unlock the Dreams blog.

More Jung on dreams, shadows, and happiness —

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“No amount of scepticism and critical reserve has ever enabled me to regard dreams as negligible occurrences. Often enough they appear senseless, but it is obviously we who lack the sense and the ingenuity to read the enigmatical message from the nocturnal realm of the psyche.”
– Carl Jung

“I have shown in a few examples, that dreams contain more than practical helps for the doctor, dream-analysis deserves very special consideration. Sometimes, indeed, it is a matter of life and death.”
– Carl Jung

“I have spent more than half a century in investigating natural symbols, and I have come to the conclusion that dreams and their symbols are not stupid and meaningless.”

“On the contrary, dreams provide the most interesting information for those who take the trouble to understand their symbols. The results, it is true, have little to do
with such worldly concerns as buying and selling.
But the meaning of life is not exhaustively explained by one’s business life, nor is the deep desire of the human heart answered by a bank account.”

“No, I almost don’t dream anymore. (!!!)
I used to dream when I began to discover my unconscious.
One dreams when the unconscious has something to say, but my consciousness is always so receptive now that the door is open.
I am ready to accept.”

“With me the unconscious can flow into consciousness.
I no longer have prejudice, or fear, or resistance.
The dream is a way in which the unconscious makes itself known to consciousness.”

“Many people have no memory of their dreams
because the unconscious knows that it will not be heard, so what’s the use; then they don’t remember.”

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“[T]here are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year’s course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word “happy” would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.”
C.G. Jung Speaking: Interviews and Encounters

“Good does not become better by being exaggerated, but worse, and a small evil becomes a big one through being disregarded and repressed. The Shadow is very much a part of human nature, and it is only at night that no shadows exist.”

“Not the artist alone, but every creative individual whatsoever owes all that is greatest in his life to fantasy.”
Carl Jung, C.W. Vol. 6: Psychological Types

“The great work of art is a product of the time, of the whole world in which the artist is living, and of the millions of people who surround him, and of the thousands of currents of thought and the myriad streams of activity which flows around him.”
C.G. Jung Speaking: Interviews and Encounters

“One must not seek happiness, one must not avoid suffering.
When one distances oneself too much from suffering one loses depth, and happiness comes from depth.”

“One must not avoid unhappiness.
One must accept suffering; it is a great teacher.”
— Carl Jung

Absolute!