Trifles, LaR,

I am counting you two as my joking-buddies here, hearty laughs are such stress releasing and mentally healthy….😂 😂

No matter what you say, it would not be “disturbing”, but just “human all too human”….

Trifles,

I appreciate your LwL humour (it got you a Limmy nomination), and it has actually helped me rediscover some of mine around my LE, so thank you – please don’t even think about changing it here on my account! (Same for you Snow).

LaR, xLO has his own field (that he might have momentarily forgotten about), so we’ll let him concentrate on ploughing that.
And I’m glad to hear you’ve found humor about your LE after missing it for so long. That’s a huge win! Worth celebrating 🥳
I don’t think I ever lost my humor so I might seem a little ‘too light-hearted’ here. Also, for me limerence has never been a moral dilemma, it’s just been “get this obsession out of me before I make an even bigger fool of myself”. So I suppose that’s why it’s been a little lighter for me.

Hi Snow,

All taken on board and I will reply properly later on a number of points (I have tried twice but keep getting interrupted and LwL has now deleted my drafts to you on both occasions – joy! Just want to send this quick one now before it happens again). All is well here, don’t worry (though I am eternally grateful for your thoughts) – all the humour from earlier is just that, humour. I have enjoyed bantering with you about it. When I can find humour, that’s a very good sign for me – there was little humour in me about the LE a year or even 5 months ago. But none of it what I said (even the comment today) is to be taken seriously.

“you may get out LE naturally without hurting your friendship, which I would use all my might to save/keep if in your shoe.”
This statement shows huge empathy and care about my situation, thank you. It’s also very true (a line I have never deviated from), and I know how to achieve it. More when I can, but I’m in a really good place and seeing progress on how to keep my friend without keeping the limerence. Things are really good between us without me keep questioning ‘is it more?’ nowadays. It is a nice thing to be able to keep saying that. Thanks for giving me a lot of help along that road with your ‘door knocking’ and ‘seed planting’.

Hope the week is treating you gently.

Grammar: more organic.

I meant the trigger of that small glimmer/LE was a dream…

@LaR,

I knew you would not send your LO that “harvester”… so careful in implying you might have mutually watered a Muse-seeds in her… 😂 the other way around sounds more organically …

If you remembered that I said once that I suddenly had a glimmer for my good friend (who proposed once later) due to a dream, when we were still in college. So NC was impossible. But since there was never glimmer in the first place, it naturally died a month later. Yet, we remain very good friends up to this day (in long distance), our mutual college classmates joked about his “pursuit” (concrete actions here or there…) openly in our reunions.

My LE of that time was a dream, what was yours? If you could really nail it down and remove it, you may get out LE naturally without hurting your friendship, which I would use all my might to save/keep if in your shoe.

Perhaps reclaiming your phantom back is a right route…. Anna’s discussion with you about here therapy a while ago is helpful. Now I know through my LE, one’s Phantom, often sleeping, can only be WAKEN up in one (by Glimmer perhaps), after being planted already by god/goddess/deity/divinity…before LE.

Snow, the only reason I would ever send that video to my LO was if I wanted to hasten the route to NC (it would go with DrL’s post ‘how to disclose if you want no for an answer’). Nah, I need to let that poor long-suffering woman set herself free to plough other fields 🤣 🤣 (in another hypothetical world, Trifles could send it to her XLO, as it would chime with his interests – but I am not, repeat not, encouraging any NC breaking)

LaR,

My Ex dated a Farmer who turned out to be a real $#!t-Head. Think I might just send this to her. 🤣🤣

PS,
He asked to marry her too. Thankfully she did not..

Wow, are you joyfully ready to throw the “key” to LO to open the gate of your ploughing? 😳 😅