Hi LE,

The song has the same lyrics, different titles, different singers.
Thanks for posting the female version.

“… take you to a level mortals aren’t allowed to visit.”

I also wondered, as a young woman, if I could be moved to love in such a way, divine, glorious, super and extraordinary love, and if someone would be able to match those feelings of ecstasy.

I can testify from the depths of my heart and soul that yes! I did once loved in such a manner and that I was reciprocated in turn. It was glorious and as if looking through the eyes of God, or reaching the splendored gates of heaven; nothing more beyond that, an excellence reaching the highest conceivable degree of love! LO (who then was my SO) had the capacity to impart in me that degree of celestial fulfillment. One day, I sat at my sofa as I was pondering on those feelings and got afraid, very afraid of the great vulnerability and fragility of those feelings, and felt very frightened that I could be hurt by the slightest breeze of any shift by LO. I know he loved me dearly and I loved him so. Cannot know if the degree of his love for me was the same as mine, and I think if it was so, how come we’re not together? Fate, God?

I walked away. Such feelings are not sustainable in this mundane world. Can’t survive! You don’t walk away because you don’t love, but because you love too much. And I wanted it to be perfect; end it before it could get stained or ruined and before mud could start swinging around with ugly words, arguments or reproaches. Yes, it’s a part of my life to which I look back and experience the love of the gods…I found my unicorn, and I’m completely fulfilled, even if LO is just a shadow now, a shadow that follows me everywhere I go. I’m glad I had the opportunity to share my feelings and all of me with someone in this lifetime. It’s a great memory.

Once upon a time there was a soul searching for another soul…

Best wishes.💪🏽

Nisor,

There’s “I Will Follow Him” by Little Peggy March (1961)

https://youtu.be/IRk9gAqjLgg?feature=shared

I always liked this song. I don’t think I’ve ever moved a woman on that level. I think my wife would but I don’t see her ever singing it, it’s not her personality.

I don’t think I’m capable of eliciting great passion in a woman. There are a lot of truly wonderful people on the world. I’m married to one of them.

But, ever since I was a kid, I’ve wondered if there was someone out there who could take you to a level mortals aren’t allowed to visit.

Finding that person is like looking for the Holy Grail.

Song: I will follow
You, is by Ricky Nelson

Hi bro,

I didn’t see your last post until now.

I’m doing great. Planning for some vacation time sometime in June. Meanwhile going small trips here and there by the sea. Everywhere I go LO is always “there”. It’s like the song : I will follow you , by Sandra Dee, I think it was her that sang it.

I’m happy you’re getting ready for the festivities, you sound enthusiastic. The garden will look fantastic and you and family can enjoy it till October/November before it gets too cold to be outside.

It’s always nice to think you’d be building stables for LO, if only in your dreams. We live of our fantasies, only reality of never having the dream come true brings us to sadness.

Its two years exactly , month of may, since I had my dream with LO that brought me Limerence and the desire to connect again with him. I’m almost sure that now I will never forget about LO as long as I live. It’s like living in a torture chamber…some days good, others , so so.

Thanks for remembering me even though you’re so busy and tired. I appreciate that.

Wishing you and family all the best in life and future.

Your L sis Nisor

Hi Nisor,

Hope all is well, just making sure you could see my last post.

Have a super day,
John

Just popping it to say hi. Been insanely busy getting the yard ready for the upcoming festivities. Between that and work and all I haven’t checked in for a while.

Thought about it last night as I was painting a door and thinking about the LO as one of the things she had talked about was starting a stable, she loved horses and I was b dry much looking forward to building that with her. I do love building things. Obviously, didn’t happen but it’s a good memory of some of the things we’d chatted about.

So even when massively busy she is still working up the rent🤣

Happily, at the moment she mostly a memory still probably until next spring as usual.

Anyway, hope you are doing great as we head into the summer soon.

Bro

@Why,

Hi, if you want to watch James Sextons interview here’s the site:

The diary of a CEO

“The divorce expert 86 % of people who divorce remarry/ Why sex is causing divorces.

It’s a very revealing and emotional conversation.

Have a good day.

Dear Adam,

I have been mulling saying this for a couple of weeks – I am also a little bit worried you will fall into a new LE with your Lady Friend – now I am finally saying something because you’ve actually had a dream with her in it. Sorry if this feels harsh, my friend, I can almost feel your rumination levels going up through the computer and I worry about you falling again. Mila has also picked up on this…
You have so much love to give, I always think that’s like your defining characteristic. Give it to Momma and the boys, and maybe get a new object of affection since one of the boys has left the nest – a goldfish, a cat (*ducks in case MJ is reading*), I hesitate to say ‘dog’ as they are so much work. You would have a way worse time if you fell for this latest damsel in distress because she is family friend and it would be crossing new and more distressing boundaries for everyone. The fact that you are an ‘open book’ doesn’t help because it seems that others can see exactly what’s happening. Get something else to replace that urge? Some of the blogs on warding off limerence might be good to revisit as well.

Peace and love, Bx

Bewitched,

„ because its basically saying that his personality is lacking“
Haha, but it’s the truth 😂
No I wouldn’t go into his general personality, I would limit it to his specific behavior, I mean not telling me about his decision while he promised to tell me.
And I have to say yes, it irks me that he might think I’m that unfair to sulk about his decision. Sometimes I think I would regret that more than stating the real cause.
But then I would have to work to phrase it really in the right words that get to him without insulting him and at the moment I don’t have the energy for that.
And my picture of him hasn’t really „settled“. I don’t know if it’s worth it or not. I‘ll just wait a bit.

„Its not particularly pleasant but it is oddly empowering (don’t you think? Do you feel that too?).“
Yes I do! We get control over our moods and life back that we gave away.

Ok, I didn’t know how far this event was away. But you sound definitely in control! I feel it too- I’m not dependent any more if he reacts on my texts or not, if he takes initiative or not.
I do have slips but always get back on track quickly.
Of course I’m on heavy distraction duty, for example refreshing this site much too often, but it helps me.

Hi Mila,
Actually I don’t believe that contacting your LO and showing interest is going to do any harm right now. Your head is obviously getting out of the game of limerence for him (good for you!). Only you know whether it is better to admit what has been going on since your trip (mild version), although I would not do that because it doesn’t achieve anything useful, I think. In my view, not saying anything about that particular thing is certainly not ‘fake’, its more about maintaining some boundaries. But perhaps it irks you that he thinks you’re upset by his decision, which is the wrong conclusion and you want to tidy that up? Consider that, telling him the truth (even mild version) is worse because its basically saying that his personality is lacking, something that he can’t control anyway. Sorry if this is blunt, I’m sure you would be more diplomatic…maybe a better reason not to tell him the truth is in case you regret it later, for whatever reason. But I realise that people have regrets for all sorts of different reasons and that calculation might look very different for you.
The thing with my LO is not for a while, so I am not thinking about it. Although I am giving strong consideration to stopping all work with him since I have quite a lot of autonomy in my role at work and I could manage to finagle (new word!) that. I am definitely in the ‘quit’ phase of this LE. Its not particularly pleasant but it is oddly empowering (don’t you think? Do you feel that too?).