Comments on: What is within your control?

By: MJ

MJ — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 18:27:14 +0000

In reply to C for cat. Thanks Adam, I dabbled in this subject before but can't remember what category I would have fallen under. I know however, I am an introvert.

By: Jo

Jo — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 17:45:31 +0000

In reply to ABCD. Thank you, ABCD! I'm already feeling more empowered over my emotions simply by reading all the stories and advice :)

By: Adam

Adam — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 15:41:31 +0000

In reply to C for cat. I tried to post a link in a previous comment and it didn't post. So try 16 Personalities website. They have a fairly reliable test. I typed for INFJ on two other tests before I took this one and I got ISFJ which was spot on. If you are an introverted type many tests falsely mistype people INFJ which is on of the rarest personality types making up something like 6-7% of the population.

By: MJ

MJ — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 14:15:13 +0000

In reply to C for cat. When you do Cat, let me know where you found the test. I might try it also..

By: C for cat

C for cat — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 12:15:41 +0000

In reply to C for cat. Thanks Adam, that sounds interesting and might help me. I'll find a test and give it a go.

By: Adam

Adam — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 11:57:05 +0000

In reply to C for cat.

ISFJ is one of the 16 personality types in the Myers-Briggs trait indicator. They based their research on Carl Jung’s work in psychiatry. The MBTI was devised as a way to explain how people’s personality work from a psychiatric point of view. Of the 16 personality types each one is broken down to our four cognitive functions.

ISFJ is

Primary function: Introverted
Auxiliary function: Sensing
Tertiary function: Feeling
Inferior function: Judging

All of the functions mean to explain how I sense the world around me, my interactions with others, how I process information, make decisions, etc

There are numerous online tests you can take that will tell you what your personality type is. I don’t think it is concrete science but it is interesting to helping you better understand your personality and why you do the things you do. What you are typed is also heavily built on your attachment style as well. For instance my “feeling” and “judging” functions come from my anxious attachment style.

Dr. L also did a post on the correlation of MBTI types and limerence.

https://livingwithlimerence.com/how-common-is-limerence/

By: ABCD

ABCD — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 11:09:39 +0000

In reply to Jo. Welcome to the forums Jo! They are full of useful advice. Wish you great strength.

By: Jo

Jo — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 10:51:21 +0000

I just found this blog via the Recovery Room Podcast. Reading these articles and comments - I can’t believe how many others are going through exactly what I am (and have been over a handful of different LOs). I’d only even learned the term limerence last week. Anyway, it’s comforting to know this is a real thing and I’m not just crazy

By: Lola

Lola — Mon, 31 Jul 2023 20:42:13 +0000

I got high score on everything except career, which I got 50, and it doesn’t make sense because my answers were the opposite of what the low score description said. But overall was high too.. not sure if they helps me anyway.
I believe they I can make anyone like me, but there are some people that I simply don’t care about enough to put in an effort. I believe that if I was single and LO was single, he would be smitten with me. I am not necessarily very confident, and I don’t act like I am superior in anyway, however I do like myself a lot. Except that lately I am not acting in a way that I like, and I am being driven by crazy emotions. Some days I still find some peace and clarity. Like right now I am sitting here, after a day with not nearly enough interaction with LO. And for a few moments I convinced myself that I am ok and I can get over this and I don’t need him to talk to me at all. And I am not going to reach out this week. I am only going to talk to him if he reaches out first. Wish me luck.

By: C for cat

C for cat — Mon, 31 Jul 2023 16:29:40 +0000

In reply to Adam.

I like that slogan. I only have a couple of grey hairs – maybe that’s why I’m being such an idiot at the moment! Not much more I can do to reinvent myself physically – I’m in the best shape I’ve ever been, don’t smoke, don’t dress up as such very often but in public I don’t look like a bag lady. Although I have to admit that since this LE started I am making more of an effort… I think my reinvention is all to do with the inside of my head!

What’s ISFJ?