Comments on: The elements of purposeful living

By: pianocat

pianocat — Sun, 24 Dec 2023 21:59:30 +0000

Helpful! Thanks so much. It reminds me a lot of what I’ve read about ACT therapy. Pivoting toward what matters. Accept your pain. Connect to your values. Take helpful action.

By: Eilan

Eilan — Wed, 25 Jan 2023 14:44:10 +0000

“ Understanding that such intense romantic infatuation is a defined phenomenon, that it has common symptoms, can be explained by well known neuroscience, and that it is predictably reinforced by our instinctive behaviour, helps clarify what’s going on. “

~ Know thyself

By: Reader

Reader — Mon, 23 Jan 2023 09:29:17 +0000

Brilliant post.

The purposeful living posts on this website have helped me reorient my life over the past two years after a brutal episode of limerence, and I identify with each of these elements and how they have been critical in my journey. I agree that humans thrive on discomfort – these years have been challenging but also the most “alive” I have ever felt, a continuous period of growth. I’m super excited for your upcoming blog posts on purposeful living! Thanks Dr L!

By: Kassandra

Kassandra — Sat, 21 Jan 2023 20:49:46 +0000

Try this:

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/10/09/opinion/burnout-friends-isolation.html?unlocked_article_code=Lx8ktd80PhCIxXKV6xYzPRMWJgKU_9YOJPX3Y8UdK7Fx1tv69IKW1dP1hXZAkSdXnNNU1Dh_En7kINlpqsznQfT1AJulw8fsORjVJZ1oPGiAjC5O_XPYTUJl1R7K580vetLgPSwd4WQmdLfsOfItn3BZqSJODNtiAo1zAt9g62gYlFIa5tfXvt1Ze24b1SiwQXeJaNnjcYn6gwb-nvKkKHik421lsHOxlNmXRTHyXzxpklmt_KE99eYKyGkrif9v6qbbvs9doa_cRDQS2vJXG_8jFbqkRTs1kQGmCL0H40KDEEPPqDr1W9w0KFGn6y7RDuT_0JQ0T9q41rx2n0BPPzK3-w

By: Marikat

Marikat — Sat, 21 Jan 2023 19:06:51 +0000

In reply to Kassandra. It's subscriber only unfortunately!

By: Kassandra

Kassandra — Sat, 21 Jan 2023 18:13:52 +0000

In reply to Marikat.

I found this article helpful.

“Your brain needs the help of another brain.”
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/10/09/opinion/burnout-friends-isolation.html

By: Marikat

Marikat — Sat, 21 Jan 2023 11:53:00 +0000

I think the Six Pillars of Self-Esteem is a good read for us limerents (the pillars: Living Consciously, Self Acceptance, Self Responsibility, Self Assertiveness, Living Purposefully, Personal Integrity). I just checked: it isn’t in the recommended reading list. What do you think about it, Dr L?

Reading this post gives me the same sense as that book though: I’m all for it, I agree, I feel inspired and invigorated… but I also feel lost. I know it’s highly personal, and general advice is necessarily vague. I’m in therapy, I know there isn’t a “one size fits all” with purposeful living (that’s the point…), but sometimes I feel like I’d give my first-born for an effective workbook/guide. It feels like circular reasoning, how can I live purposefully without knowing myself? How can I know myself without living purposefully? I have to be my own guide, but I’m looking for a guide because I can’t be my own so something has to give. Or I’m just too lazy? I just can’t seem to find the thread I can start to pull on and it asks for so much energy and mental effort. But maybe it takes time and what I lack is patience and discipline, and it’s more of a PDCA model. It’s exhausting but I hope some good inertia is going to set in? System 2 to system 1?
As a smart jogging baboon said in my favorite show: “It gets easier. Every day it gets a little easier. But you gotta do it every day —that’s the hard part. But it does get easier.”
One can only hope…