Interesting and honest comment. Limerence is always negative (inc the arousal experience) as it manifests towards either end of a continuum of emotions and is therefore not centred in the reality of the balanced middle, where truth, reality and ultimately peace is found. Euphoria and rejection are not trusted guides on the pilgrimage towards the authentic self.

I had a similar experience with someone having the same name as my LO! A few years ago, many years after the LE, I just so happened to meet a guy with the same first name as my very first LO, who was also from the same hometown (where I grew up). He was only a few years older than my first LO would have been by then, and was similar enough in appearance (I wouldn’t be able to recognize my first LO on sight because we’ve both aged so much). When this guy told me where he was from, I had a mini heart attack and asked him what street he’d lived on, and mercifully he was NOT my first LO. Still my wires got crossed and I started to want *this* man to like me even though he’s not my present-day type at all. It got so bad that I was sending him mixed signals of possibly being interested, even though he’s a little too old for me and, again, not my type…

Yes, indeed, it could be absolutely devastating for the LO gay guy. I hope she sees sense before any damage is done.

I had a slight crush on a gay guy in my neighborhood about a year ago. It didn’t last long and it wasn’t a LE (thankfully) but now I heard through the neighborhood rumor mill that another woman in the neighborhood has a crush on him. Oh good luck. I’m hoping she isn’t limerence for him because she is going down the wrong road on this one.

Lolo, besides picking a similar username, I am in a similar situation, limerant for someone at work, and both unavailable.
Except I have no idea if he is also limerant or just lusting over a hot body.

…. to see who came back to reality first…. words to row a boat with – in the opposite direction! Thanks for the comment.

You know, this reminds me of the plot of A Midsummer Night’s Dream. Has anyone ever made a version with gay people in it? I think it would be pretty intriguing.

This happened to me where I was limerent with someone… And another man had the same name as them, who was a friend, so for some reason I started acting limerent But I would catch myself doing it and then back off, the boy with the same name ended up thinking I was weird.when I literally wasn’t meaning to be, it was just my brain being stupid, and confused because of the whole name thing. So I tried to ignore the guy, and he ended up getting mad that I stopped talking to bim, and he started yelling at me….idk why… Anyway it happens where limerence bleeds into our lives else where, and we have to face it. Not fun.

Sammy, I had been not exactly limerent, but crushing after a gay guy. Even after I know he was gay. Hawt is hawt!