Hello Bridgelover, firstly congrats on getting out there in the dating world !!! One of my friends recently married a guy she met on a dating app, after many many ‘no no ‘ not for me situations. I found her experiences on dating apps fascinating and sometimes hysterically funny ! I wish you the best in this new world of dating!! Can you maybe consider joining a group. Eg walking/ community/ charity group/ course ? This maybe another avenue to get to know people first like the good old days….

LO was the opposite for the most part. First time I met her in person she was wearing jeans, shirt and ballcap with ponytail through the back of the cap. While I’m big on women’s fashion (from what MJ says his LO would be kryptonite to me) I love to sit on the porch and watch when Momma cuts the grass as she does it in shorts, tank top and ballcap with the ponytail through the back. Love the tomboy look. 😉

I’m just one lady, but my LO actually does dress better than most men, which is nice–it shows he’s not afraid to clean up good. That said, at our recent coffee date he was dressed quite casually, which I had never seen before, and it was nice to relax with him like that, too.

tl/dr

When we started dating regularly, LO #2 told me that in college she worked in the Men’s Department of the Seattle Marshall Fields’ affiliate. She said that I was decent looking, smart, had a good sense of humor and above average social skills.

She said that I dressed like a Bozo.

She said that she’d come over on Saturday, she’d go through my closet and “we’d” go clothes shopping.

[Tangent/on] She came over. I offered her a cup of coffee. She took one taste, went “Bleahhh!” and asked what it was. I pulled out a can of whatever and showed it to her. I was in the Navy. If it was brown and liquid, it was coffee. She said, “Bleahh!” She asked what I made it in. I showed her my parents 1960 vintage electric percolator. This was 1983. She went, “Bleahhh!” and said in addition to buying clothes, “we’d” get a decent coffee maker and she would teach me how to make coffee. [Tangent/off]

Once we got past the coffee, she told me to get two trash bags and follow her. I asked why two? She said one for donations, one for trash.

She went into my bedroom, opened the closet and pushed all my Navy uniforms to one side. The she took out each article of clothing from my closet and said “Keep,” “Donate,” or “Trash.” She took out one hideous pair of brown and white checked polyester bell-bottoms, ripped them apart at the seem, and said, “Not even a poor person should be caught dead in these.”

When she finished, she said that she knew what I needed and we took off. She said that I was a “winter” and had all the wrong colors for me in my closet. She said that I looked good in Navy blue so that uniform worked for me. She said she couldn’t understand men’s fascination with “Bachelor Brown” but she saw a lot of it.

$500+ [$1500+ in 2023 dollars] later, I was a new man.

And, I had a new Melita coffee maker!

Adam,

You gotta stop sending these slow floaters over the plate!

“Sharp Dressed Man” – ZZ Top (1984)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7wRHBLwpASw

I danced my fanny off to ZZ Top in the 80s.

I like well-groomed, matching—clothed, (inexpensive) (f+m)appearance with modesty and confidence.

I’m curios. Do you ladies like a man that dresses “sharp”? Most days I try to dress to impress Momma. Today when I stepped out; chinos, t-shirt, black vest, pocket watch and white fedora. Do modern day ladies like the old school attire?

@Marcia. Yes, I can see your point here. Love the pork chop reference too. 😂

Sammy,
“I’ve always delayed the real-life meeting as I thought it was “too pushy” to meet somebody too soon. Don’t ask me how soon is too soon. Years? Decades?”
Sounds like you were trying to create limerence! 🙂 Let it stew, let someone ruminate, don’t make a move for a realllllllllllllllly long time, if ever. Just dangle yourself like a delicious pork chop! 🙂 I always think that if someone doesn’t want to meet up pretty quickly, he’s not serious or too tentative or has a bunch of other orbiters.