… wait, you just explained how my husband must feel.
I’m so physically distant and he is so dedicated to be everything I need. How can I fix myself to gain physical desire 😫 😪. I’m sure your wife isn’t doing it intentionally. She probably has her mind in to many places. Ps. I pray you are okay; as it has been a couple years or more since your comment.
I came here because our Adult son is obsessed with someone he can’t be and am terrified he will go through committing suicide before finding his true life purpose;
If we all don’t end up dead first; because his thoughts of revenge have been there.
I hope he keeps his sanity through this. It’s been longer than 5 years.
For my husband and I we have Adult children and there is no physical closeness. But I do love him and would never want to be without him.
Again; please be okay. You don’t have to harm yourself and you should tell her you have thought about it. I hope you are taking good care.

Dear Joseph,

It is hard when you fall in love and are not reciprocated. So sorry it didn’t work out for
you. You’re so young to go through heartaches… don’t take it so hard, there will be other girls coming along very soon. You’ll soon see. Don’t get stuck with this person. Keep yourself busy with your studies, that’s where your mind should be for the time being, also other activities that will help you in the long run. Gym, your piano lessons, writing a journal and socializing with other students. One old man told me , girls are like elevators, one goes, another comes right behind it…. Girls, at that age are fickle, so don’t pay too much attention to them. Keep busy improving yourself; busy is the key word, the cure all word. You’ll be alright. Don’t chase her, show indifference. Move on as you said. You’ll survive, believe me.

Best wishes.

@Joseph,
my heart goes out to you. I’m sure we all remember our first really painful heartbreak…not sure if it is limerence in your case or just falling in love and being heartbroken.
If you manage to accept her decision (because there’s nothing else to do!)and move on, which might take a while, then you are a true hero in my opinion.

My fellow co-workers gave me grief all the time about bringing in breakfast or donuts of coffee from LO’s favorite coffee shop. “We always know we’re going to get free something when you are here! We know its for her though.” Apparently I wasn’t being as discreet as I thought lol

MJ

If I did smile I’d sometimes get that “you’re in trouble mister, what are you smiling about?!” look. Which just made trying to hold the smile back even worse.

I got enough mother issues to make Freud proud.

@Adam, I’ll bet you were grinning from ear to ear when she scolded you..
Smitten like a Kitten ☺

My glimmer was a “thank you Adam” followed up with a “you’re so sweet Adam” for buying breakfast for the office one day. And I was actually hungry. I wasn’t doing it for her per say.

She would call me in for lunch and if I didn’t respond fast enough she’d come out to the warehouse and scold me till I did. “You can’t work out in this heat without food!” And she’d have me a plate made up when I’d get there with a couple of bottles of water too. “You have to stay hydrated Adam!” She was just a concerned mother use to looking after people. And I am terrible at self-care. But lord knows my limerent brain didn’t see it that way. And so maybe I was intentionally careless so she’d mother me.

She’d give me that death stare thing women always do, when she would see me smoking outside. “That’s not good for your heart condition Adam!” I think I liked “getting in trouble”.

*hug* Well, at least we’re not alone in being giddy for no apparent reason!