Hi Michelle,
Same for me. I have found a comfort just putting a name to this “condition” and finding other people in the same struggle. Just feel less alone. I couldn’t tell anyone about it for these almost 2 years, which added to the suffering. So now at least we can share here how bad it gets with others who understand. Best to you.

I’ll chime in to support Dr. L and add that the only person limerence hurt in my situation was me. My husband and I were already on our way to divorce when I had my LE.
Also, I’ve seen posts from people who have said the advice on this site saved their marriage.
I’ve never struggled with alcohol or drugs. My life has been “normal” and most would consider me an upstanding citizen.
L knocked me off my feet. Most on this site are trying to get through something that’s hard to understand. I wouldn’t have believed in it a few years ago.
I believe it now.

Not sure why you have directed this venom at B, F. But this site is all about doing what you are asking (demanding?) – figuring out what limerence is, how to manage it, and how to get life back on track.

Weird that you should be so hostile towards that project.

Why don’t you try Google “how to look after your family and leave other’s family alone”? In all your selfishness and sickness, you have destroyed other families already. I think we (“LO” & the other half) know who you are and what you are capable of. Stay away from us and stop these stupid posts here. Go get treated and get a life.

Sammy,
Thank you for the kind words.
My best to you.

Wow thank you for saying that!! This person is a very good person and is helping me to have healthy boundaries with them … they are mutual feelings but I am just so much more expressive whereas they are more rigid with their boundaries

Hi Shea,
Yes, that’s a powerful movie. I’ll say that I’m unsure whether it was limerence because he reciprocated her affection. She ended the affair, or tried to.
Had my LO continued to reciprocate, it would have continued or ended in a natural manner. Barriers and other circumstances turned my affection into limerence.

Totally! I think a strong – often overwhelming – desire to affect and be effected by others is another definition that resonated…I seek validation from my influence on others – my own self love is validated when I feel I can help others love themselves more fully. I want to make broken peoples hearts break open the way mine has to see the love that exists all around us.

Sammy,

“We want to paint ourselves a deep and spiritual people.”
We do! Nothing wrong with wanting big love. We have big hearts.

Once I had a killer crush on a co-worker. I was dating someone else so nothing happened for months. The attraction and my fantasies built. There was not rumination, however.
After my relationship ended (not my choice), I dated The Crush. We kissed once…nope. Fizzled then and there. 🙂

Limerence makes us anxious messes. Whatever LO is turned me into something I never wanted to be. A needy, lovesick fool.