Lola Hyde is definitely a danger to others, and none of the other characters or much of the audience is ready to forgive her. (Surprisingly, there is still a Team Hyde among the fans, but a much more vocal Team Jekyll.) My audience is much larger than I could have dreamed, as my initial desire was to write for transformation fetishists like myself, but it seems to have a broader appeal that fascinates me. I’ve learned a lot from the comment section.

Lola Hyde’s development over the course of the series has largely been to become more and more corrupt, petty, insecure, monstrous, as the actress’s sex appeal was so great that I had to work to make her more despicable. It’s been interesting to see where she crosses the line with some listeners. At first many found her sexy, but there was usually something she would do that would upset them: mistreat the listener, cheat on him, use him purely for resources, etc. Hyde’s journey now is more about survival than acceptance, although she’ll claim it’s about acceptance… Most of what she says is deceptive, although in the 5th episode I had her spell out her needs to the listener, and I was floored when a fan claiming to have Dissociative Identity Disorder wrote me to say that I’d nailed what it’s like to have warring personalities. Hyde is basically saying: “If you cure me, I’ll die.”

“I think it’s telling that after 17 episodes, I’m at a point where Ms. Hyde has become aware that she is a danger to herself and may begin searching for forgiveness and self-discovery… with an occasional relapse.”

It’s definitely fiction. She’s more a danger to others. She may be able to forgive herself but others will be a more difficult challenge. Who’s the target demographic for your writing?

If you’ve ever been seriously involved with real “… power-hungry narcissist who is incredibly seductive, amoral, petty and cruel,” they’re soulless, unsympathetic, and beyond redemption. You can’t trust them. As one therapist put it, “It’s not that they can’t change, it’s just that they usually don’t. It works for them.” Look for them in Dante’s Eighth or Ninth Circles of Hell.

After we broke up, LO #2 told me to my face, “I can’t control you.” Who says that to their former lover? It appeared she didn’t respect anyone she could control and didn’t trust anyone she couldn’t which makes me wonder what her new husband is like.

Wow. That’s pretty scary, Sandy. Good job you didn’t know him in real life.

Hope you stay safe, too.

I’m a married woman who met a man on social media almost a year ago who lives 3000 miles away. It started out as a business relationship that crossed over into flirting, then sexting, then phone sex and exchanging sexy videos. He immediately became obsessively attached to me and told me he “loved” me and kept asking me to leave my husband.

He’d push harder and harder and I’d pull away. This made him white hot angry with me and yet, he couldn’t resist me and didn’t want our relationship to end. I finally I gave into him and declared that I had feelings for him, leaving myself unaware and vulnerable to his machinations when he told me, during one of our “intimate” moments, that he hated me and wanted to kidnap, torture, rape and kill me. He said it was a “fantasy” of his. Obviously I had to end it and I immediately did, but I couldn’t believe he’d ever say something like that to me. Still can’t believe it.

Just goes to show that obsession can be dangerous. Brings out the worst in people. I “accidentally“ intended (wanted to get to know him personally) on unleashing my charm and seductive wiles on him shortly after I met him, and it ended in something so horrible I can hardly conceive of it.

Stay safe out there, people. Lots of sickos roaming the earth.

Looking for this?

https://livingwithlimerence.com/the-psychological-appeal-of-giving-in/