Comments on: And I want you so it’s an obsession

By: N

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 13:33:52 +0000

Annie Lennox is the ultimate gorgeous voice for limerence!
She sings my love and pain.
https://youtu.be/vFmBvowQIJU?si=4-JkI3JIMmQKQOpn

By: JArgyle

JArgyle — Tue, 02 May 2023 17:50:01 +0000

It’s no good by Depeche Mood
It’s got the feeling of destiny, the strange passivity of the limerent, the despair, and the feeling you can’t get away (you can run but you can’t hide).
The don’t say you love me is because all we need is lack of discouragement to think they are secretly obsessing about us as we are them.

https://songmeanings.com/songs/view/5806#addcomment

By: Adam

Adam — Thu, 13 Apr 2023 18:24:06 +0000

After reading Dr.L’s post here I got to thinking about the obsession of limerence and how painstaking it can be even when you know you are in the middle of it and want out. I thought of this song. And while it isn’t the intent of the singer (I actually read an interview where he explains why he wrote it) it could easily be about limerence with almost no change to the lyrics. You could replace “ADD” with “limerence and it feels much like limerence to me. And really since it is about mental illness and things that effect the mind I think you could replace it with almost any ailment and it would work; ADHD, bipolar, anxiety, obsession, etc

Sail by Awolnation
https://youtu.be/2CaypEojjKQ

Sail
This is how I show my love
I made in my mind because
I blame on my ADD baby
This how an angel cries
I blame it on my own sick pride
Blame it on my ADD baby
Sail! Sail! Sail! Sail! Sail!

Maybe I should cry for help
Maybe I should kill myself
Blame it on my ADD baby
Maybe I’m a different breed
Maybe I’m not listening
So blame it on my ADD baby
Sail! Sail! Sail! Sail! Sail!

Sail! Sail! Sail! Sail!
Sail with me into the dark
Sail!
Sail with me into the dark
Sail!
Sail with me into the dark
Sail!
Sail with me
Sail!

“Blame it on my own sick pride” particularly caught my attention to think of the rest the lyrics in the nuance of limerence. In particular because my need to “rescue” LO was my own sick pride. Hopefully I didn’t make the angel cry.

By: Sebastian Howard

Sebastian Howard — Thu, 16 Jul 2020 21:55:58 +0000

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jo34VhfcetU

By: Scharnhorst

Scharnhorst — Thu, 09 Jul 2020 23:15:36 +0000

In reply to Matt.

Song of the Day: “Higher Love” – Steve Winwood (1986)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=524Tf0dNRNw

“I could light the night up with my soul on fire
I could make the sun shine from pure desire”

LO #2 loved this song

By: Matt

Matt — Thu, 09 Jul 2020 22:43:05 +0000

In reply to drlimerence.

Dr. L., as I ponder my LOs through my years, the one major difference for me between an LE and all my other obsessions/fascinations/crushes/whatevers was the non-sexual nature of my desire for my LOs. All the others were eventually about sex in one way or another. But my LOs… completely not sexual. Just this incredibly deep pining and yearning to be with them and nobody else, as if somehow they were my “soulmate.” And this is despite cognitively knowing that I didn’t even know them that well, which is why with my recent LO, I was constantly kicking myself for why I was feeling this way.

It’d be hilarious if she were on this site, though. I suspect she’s just as screwed up as I am.

By: Vicarious Limerent

Vicarious Limerent — Thu, 09 Jul 2020 18:59:08 +0000

In reply to Mary.

It’s funny. I have mentioned and posted links to several songs on this site over the past few months, but I can’t help but think this one makes me think of limerence more than any other (particularly for those of us married limerents who have feelings for someone else). I resisted posting this before because it is kind of cheesy, and it is so NOT my musical tastes, but I remember this song from back in the 70s (I was just a kid). The song is It’s Sad to Belong, by England Dan and John Ford Coley: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-R0T_gNFwd4 (“It’s sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along.)

By: Mary

Mary — Thu, 09 Jul 2020 17:46:23 +0000

For me, the song Alone by Heart is the all time lyrical representation of limerence. It’s probably situational for me, since my LE is as unique as anyone else’s. But yeah. That song though… gets me, even after 5 years of this godforsaken obsession that just never dies. And every time you think you’re just about over it, something stupid resurfaces it. Uhhhg…..

By: Mia

Mia — Sun, 07 Jun 2020 16:32:04 +0000

This march is going to be blasting out of my speakers !

By: Scharnhorst

Scharnhorst — Sun, 07 Jun 2020 16:04:23 +0000

In reply to Mia.

Song of the Day: “Guadalcanal March ” – Richard Rogers, “Victory at Sea”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XhqaPumDBSo

Way to go!

“After my divorce ( and I’m happy about my divorce) LO and me had a huge fight where he told me he wanted to meet again but I should not have expectations (this coming from someone who told me he loved me 3 weeks ago) and that was the limit.”

Those LOs can say the darndest things…

I admire your restraint. Something like that warranted a “F— You! Just, F— You!”

I deleted my 13 page history of my relationship with LO #2 at work but I made a list of her most famous quotes. There are 3 pages of them and I have them under a BS name at work. Assuming they don’t flat out piss you off to the point where you want to smack them, they can leave you wondering, “What?! Did you just say that!?”

Scene: A restaurant in West Seattle on a late Saturday morning in early December, 1987. Our hero just couldn’t help himself when LO #2 called a few weeks prior and asked if they could meet for a drink when she was in town and agreed. We pick up the scene after Scharnhorst has wrangled it out of LO #2 that his successor is allegedly cheated on her and she’s looking for a shoulder to cry on. [That part of the discussion is pretty funny in itself but would make the post realllly long.]

Scharnhorst: “Cutting to the chase. Do you want to get back together?”
LO #2: “No.”
Scharnhorst: “Will this relationship ever be what I want it to be?”
LO #2: “No. You should find some sweet young thing that adores you and not waste your time with a crusty old broad like me.”
Scharnhorst: “Then why did you call me and why am I here?”
LO #2: “You’re still my best friend…”

There was some more after that.

I told that story to the therapist. She laughed. She said while played it well, it was not the response LO #2 was hoping for. The therapist said I must have frustrated the s–t out of LO #2 [she used the word s–t].