Eheheheh. Your advice about soap and water is SO in character.

I would ask you to be the LWL site ‘Mom’ but I don’t run it and the guy who does is pretty good.

Well, you’re gonna be an amazing catch for somebody if you ever feel inclined.

First question to ask them:

“Are you a limerent?”
“No?”
“You may proceed.”

Otherwise, run fast!

Good luck!

Glad to hear it’s going OK, Lee.

I hope everyone is keeping their distance from others and thoroughly washing their hands with soap and water.

Never has that advice seemed so apt 🙂

p.s. I’m working on a post at the moment which is an update on a betrayed spouse who you helped last summer. Should be live on Saturday, and should cheer you up.

It goes. I am very glad not to be living in lockdown with someone who has never, ever stopped comparing and contrasting me with others and found me wanting in fundamental but ultimately superficial ways.

Our adult kids were relieved. One promptly dropped him from her wedding. Turns out, he had shared his views of me as not being quite good enough with them off and on through the years. Then he would tell them that he was angry, didn’t mean it, etc. So they kept his secrets because they thought he wasn’t playing us all – or that his diagnoses were fueling it and that he really did love me for ME rather than my usefulness to him.

Since filing, anytime I had a flickering doubt, I would read one of the many posts about the glories and wonders of LO’s past and present that have been submitted; how much of a hassle and drag SO’s are, how lackluster!, square my shoulders and resolve to see it through to the end.

https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x6sdmtt

Go to 27.40 or so. No longer am I cast in the role of Margaret to a series of Jeanne’s before and during our marriage. He is now released from released from any pretenses of affection. I prefer to wait until the divorce is finalized but that will be by the end of the year with a little luck. It’s easier because our kids are grown and he simply wants to be free to pursue his bliss.

I hope everyone is keeping their distance from others and thoroughly washing their hands with soap and water.

Hi Fred,
Sorry you didn’t get an advanced copy, but thanks for buying one! Thanks too for the quote – I harvested some of the most pithy and powerful quotes to relay ‘that limerence feeling’. To be honest, I had so many I even contemplated a separate chapter on it. Maybe a good idea for the second edition…?

And I’m in the book! Or at least a quote of mine is: “Over the course of this summer, the feeling I now know as limerence has been building. I’ve been irritable, depressed, withdrawn from my family and derive no pleasure from activities I usually enjoy. When I text her, I am on edge until she replies and when she doesn’t, I’m destroyed. I can soothe myself by remembering our moments together and fantasising how she will reciprocate.”

Fully understandable! You can just “add it to the backlog” as we always tell customers when they want a new feature added to our product. 😉

I agree you need someone to set up phpBB or whatever you choose but I don’t think finding moderators will prove much of a challenge. Several regulars here would probably love to do it. Lee would be a fearsome moderator(!)

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Maybe I’ll just buy a boat load of LWL books then I can write my review.

Hey… that sounds like a brilliant plan 🙂